Alleingeburten - inakzeptabel!?

Alleingeburten — inakzeptabel?

Mit dem Thema Alleingeburten begebe ich mich persönlich auf Neuland. Mir wäre es nie in den Sinn gekommen, mein Kind allein, also ohne die Begleitung einer Hebamme, zu bekommen.

Viele andere Frauen sagen aber genau das von einer Hausgeburt: „Nie wäre ich auf den Gedanken gekommen, mein Kind freiwillig zur Hause zur Welt zu bringen.“

Mein Ziel ist es, offen zu bleiben und den Wunsch der einzelnen Frau in den Mittelpunkt zu stellen. Genauso, wie es Argumente gegen die Hausgeburt gibt, gibt es Argumente gegen eine Alleingeburt. Und natürlich gibt es auch genauso Argumente gegen eine Klinikgeburt.


Laura (in English): Sqeezing hips, please

Laura tells us how the father’s baby had a perfect idea for a beautiful home birth.


About us… my husband and I consider ourselves pretty green, spiritual, vegan, earthy, karma believers and live our „law of attraction” lifestyle the best we can.

A pregnancy without problems

First baby, first pregnancy. A little bit about my pregnancy. I had an amazing pregnancy. I did feel the fatigue and crumminess between week 6-12. No appetite and just super blah, but not actually throwing up, just once! From month 3 onward I had no real signs of pregnancy, I felt 100% myself. It was amazing!

Right until our little guy was born, I didn’t have an ache, Braxton-hick or a hint of fatigue. I gained 20lbs total. I started my pregnancy in the dark about the choice of freebirth, or even midwives at that point.


Mary: the urge to be alone

Mary tells us about her beautiful daughter being born — and how her dad went to get ear plugs to be able to sleep through the noise.


Even short before the birth started, I was still unsure of my gestation, only knowing that I was either 34 or 38 weeks, so it did not feel unrealistic to me to be having my baby in late May. Hah. Denial is a hell of a thing. I totally knew.

Yesterday I woke up with a crazy amount of energy. I spent my day shoveling seaweed in the garden, then going for a long walk on the beach with my love, then coming home and inhaling a huge lunch, immediately afterwards feeling a ferocious need to be alone and take a nap.


Elissa: how a second birth can heal a birth trauma

Elissia writes about her 2nd birth — about practical preparation and the healing powers of doing it your own way.


A little bit of a back story.

My first labor and birth was traumatic. I was in active labor for 36 hours and pushed for 7 hours. I was at a birthing center with a midwife and a „meh” partner (so, basically by myself.) It resulted in a transfer to a hospital a town away where I had an emergency c-section. „Diagnosis” was maternal exhaustion/failure to progress. I don’t remember a single thing after the transfer, didn’t see my daughter until 3 hours after she was born, my stitches tore open because the surgeon sucked, it got infected, they prescribed the wrong meds for the infection and I ended up needing a blood transfusion. Needless to say, I desperately wanted a different outcome with this birth… and I got it.


Rosie [in English]: harmony at home with preparation and faith

Rosie erzählt ihre Hausgeburt mit Mann, Hebamme, Doula und älterem Geschwisterkind. Sie beschreibt ihre Vorbereitung, ihren Glauben und das Wunder der ersten Minuten.- 
I have found it quite difficult to write my birth story. Not because it was traumatic and I don’t want to re-live it; quite the contrary. I had a beautiful, amazing birth, and this is the reason I find it difficult to write. Because people don’t want to hear about it. It seems that, in our culture, it is fine and normal to relate negative stories of births that have not gone according to plan, but no one seems to be telling the stories of empowering, uplifting births that were what the mother was hoping and believing for.
I don’t write this to skite or because I think I am better than anyone else. I don’t write this to make anyone feel badly about their own experience. I write this because everyone has a birth story, every birth story is beautiful and unique, and mine happens to be a very positive story that I believe deserves to be told.
My Braxton Hicks contractions had been getting stronger over the last few weeks of the pregnancy — about a week before the birth I thought I was in labour for sure. I even called the midwife, filled the pool and got the camembert out to celebrate! Well the contractions stopped before bedtime. I had to buy more camembert.


Trudy (in English): Water breaking with Yehova’s Witness at the door

Our son Fox Eros freebirthed at home on 03/04/18, arriving Earthside at 8.15pm, at 40+2 weeks gestation

A Witness for the start

I was awoken to my waters leaking at 4.45am, and lay in bed for a couple of hours as they continued to trickle. I then got up and my husband took the day off work and ran some errands as I tidied around. At 11.05am they full on broke, Hollywood style! (Just as a Jehovahs Witness knocked on the door! My husband was trying his best to politely get rid of her as fast as he could as I’m stood in the hallway behind him, trousers round my ankles with fluid still pouring down and pooling all around me- ðŸ˜‚)


Geburt Nummer drei von Sylvia – Vanessa: aller guten Dinge sind drei

Geburt Nummer drei ist die Geschichte von Sylvias 3. Geburt.

Über ihre erste und zweite Geburt kannst du hier lesen:
Sylvia: 1/3: Angelika: Erstmal putzen
Sylvia 2/3: Nadine: Die körpereigene Geburtsvorbereitung

Samstag, 16.12.2005 – mein Mann und ich saßen abends um 23 Uhr beim Fernsehen — und dann hat sich Vanessa mit einer Schmierblutung angekündigt.

Da ja meine vorhergehenden Geburten relativ schnell von statten gingen, fuhren wir ins Krankenhaus.

Dort war natürlich alles ruhig. Die Krankenschwester war eine ganz Liebe. Nach der Erstuntersuchung behielt sie mich sicherheitshalber im Kreißzimmer.

Meine Wehen spürte ich wieder mal Richtung Po — ich kannte nicht das Gefühl eines „harten“ Bauchs durch die Wehen.


Das Trauma nach der Geburt – Christine

Christine schreibt von ihrer unkomplizierten Geburt, der Sehbehinderung ihrer Tochter und von den Schuldgefühlen, warum nach einer komplikationslosen Schwangerschaft und guten Geburt ihre Tochter nicht gesund ist. Das Trauma nach der Geburt, ihre Geburtsgeschichte:

28 Jahre lang frage ich mich, warum meine erste Tochter nach einer ganz normalen Schwangerschaft und Geburt dann doch sehbehindert auf die Welt gekommen ist.

Die Verbindung zum Vater dieses Kindes war schon vorher problematisch, eine frühe Fehlgeburt war vielleicht ein Zeichen dafür, es zu lassen. „Jetzt gleich nochmal“,- sagte damals mein Frauenarzt und selbstverständlich war ich mehr als bereit dazu. Es klappte auch bald wieder, ich bettete mich wie auf ein rohes Ei, damit diesmal nichts schief gehen konnte.